I like to think that if any of us were there, we’d have stood up to bigotry too. That’s why we choose this path. So we don’t absorb the bigotry of others inadvertently. I cannot believe that sane people can think one’s sexual preferences in any way affect one’s ability to be a good parent.
Quite a few people have emailed and posted asking about homeschooling. How to start? Where to start? Is it right for me? Is it too late? It is too early? Some have asked about getting in touch just for moral support. I’m truly grateful that you think I know enough to advise you and I apologise I haven’t always been able to respond.
I’d like to meet you and chat with you all in person one day. And I love going to the craft fairs in Publika (every last Sunday of the month) so if anyone would like to meet up for a chat and some coffee, please look out for me there. If you drop me an email first we could exchange phone numbers or something. Also, I’ll be there this weekend for the Little Red Market so maybe I’ll see you there?
Bern will be ten soon and up until September 2012, he was complete lost when it came reading. Frankly, I’d like to say I was calm in the face of illiteracy and convention. I cannot count the number of times I was asked when I would hunker down and teach him to read. The HS naysayers would brandish his inability as proof of the wrongness of HSing.
But something shifted last September. He asked again to be taught to read and this time, the letters and sounds came together to illuminate his life with the wonders of the written word. Over the course of three weeks, he diligently practised his phonics, memorised sight words and attempted to read the DK Beginner Readers Star Wars books. If I was too busy, he would bring the books to me and sound out the words while I cooked. He pinned me down every night and made me listen to him decipher the squiggles into blends into words. His dogged determination was inspiring and I am grateful to have been included.
In six weeks, he figured out reading. Just this month, he’s asked for and read novels for his age group. It took him six month to go from illiterate to reading at grade level.
So here is my advice to parents with ‘slow’ or ‘weak’ readers
- Be patient, wait until you child is ready
- Numerous professionals agree, that when the desire is present, it takes about 100 hours to teach someone how to read
- Have faith that he will want to learn one day and until then, you yourself must read at every opportunity; to yourself, to him.
- Don’t stop reading to him as a way to get him to read to himself. The joys of a good story should never be withheld for any reason.
The decision to homeschool started (though I didn’t know it then) with the births of my children. Those three episodes have marked me in ways I have yet to discover. Suffice to say, I learn the meaning of abuse, trauma and regret fully with the bearing of each child.
Don’t make my mistakes, come to the documentary and make informed decisions for yourself and help women around the world take back birth.
You know how teenagers gush about Justin Beiber? well I gush about TED. He’s not a good looking celebrity but a website that curates some great talks about Ideas Worth Sharing. Sometimes the sheer wonder of the internet and all the possibilities it opens to us HS parents boggles me. One of my favourite websites is TED Talks. The spin off TED-Ed is just as inspiring. If you have not yet checked them out, you should. NOW.
TED Talks rawk my world.
Great talks to stir your curiosity. Browse by subject, length, or rating (inspiring, jaw-dropping, funny…)
And TED-Ed is even better.